You’d like someone to take a stroll with, have a cuddle on the couch with, or talk to while you prepare dinner.
Finding the right pet is a lot like dating. Think about it, you decide one day that you don’t want to spend your days or evenings alone. You’d like someone to take a stroll with, have a cuddle on the couch with or talk to while you prepare dinner. It also occurs to you that it would be nice to walk in the door and have a smiling face (or squirming body) there to greet you. An awful lot like dating don’t you think? Heck, even if you’re in a committed relationship, it’s not even cheating!
Going to the local shelter is even a bit like going out to the local watering hole or sporting event to try and chat up a new companion. When you walk in, 15 to 20 sets of eyes turn to look at you. Now the difference here is that they all start barking or meowing for your attention. This doesn’t happen in regular bars…if it does you may want to have another look at the outfit you’re wearing. And then there is the ritual mating dance of ‘Look at me!’ or ‘See how nice I am!’ And you of course are the most patient and attentive person on earth. Just like dating.
So then you single out one or two to have a little quiet time with and see where that may lead. Your criteria when you started out was a one year old who was house trained and enjoyed car rides. Someone who had short hair because who needs all the dust/hair bunnies. And a girl because they can be dressed up. Or a boy because they might be more playful. High energy because you really are going to start a serious exercise program. Or low energy, because for the love of all that’s holy, you know you’re not going to start an exercise program.
How many of us marry our first grade crush? We’re all just looking for the right one and sometimes you need time, patience and another chance. Nobody should be judged for not finding the right match right off the bat. And certainly not a pet – they can’t even call a friend when it all goes to hell in a hand basket.
And the animals, like you, come with a bit of baggage. They’ve been let down, mistreated, neglected and misunderstood. The two of you could write the saddest country song ever! I was once at a dinner party when I overheard a man say, “Well, you know all those shelter dogs are there for a reason.” Yikes and hello! How many of us marry our first grade crush? We’re all just looking for the right one and sometimes you need time, patience and another chance. Nobody should be judged for not finding the right match right off the bat. And certainly not a pet – they can’t even call a friend when it all goes to hell in a hand basket.
At the end of the day you’re going to end up with the one who touches your heart. It may be a four year old girl who throws up in the car and has odd bursts of energy. You just don’t know until you look deeply into those eyes and realize in your heart that you’ve found the one who you can’t live without.